About Me

When I turned 40, my world, as I knew it, seemed to come to a head. I’m sure it was a gradual process, but I became acutely aware of my “discomfort’ on my 40th birthday. I was married, with two healthy, beautiful children, lived in a lovely home, and had a thriving business. Yet, I longed for a different direction in this world and in my own life. Why was I antsy, anxious and dissatisfied? I knew, at a very young age, that midlife for men was a “thing.” But I hadn’t a clue if women experienced the same transition. So, seven years ago, I began my tireless pursuit for answers, usually through the endless loop of google. With the limited, short and indescriptive articles, I eventually succumbed to the idea that I was the anomaly. But as the saying goes, “If I only knew then what I know now,” the answer would have been crystal clear. 

Today, at 47 years, I am divorced, my wonderful children are grown and entering the formative years of their life, my business is still thriving and my life has completely transformed. I have entered what I’d like to call my New Life, the second half. I have overcome midlife, alone and with much hardship, and have entered the “glorious” phase of perimenopause. I have also become aware that MIDLIFE, MENOPAUSE and ADDICTION somehow go hand in hand. I am by no means an expert, but my experience begs to differ. Without support, understanding, knowledge and each other, our lives, and their unexpected twists and turns, can lead us down a slippery slope.  

Thus far, life has taught me that medical professionals, “google doctor,” friends and family do not have all the answers for every psychological or physical discomfort nor the experience for each of our unique needs. Our infinite wealth of knowledge cannot be taught but must be lived. This is OUR safe space to share thoughts, ideas, experiences and growing pains. Whether you choose to remain anonymous or scream your name from the mountaintops, this forum is where we can speak freely of topics, which, unfortunately, are still taboo in our society. I look forward to sharing my journey and getting to know each of you as we embark on life after 40 together. 

So Let’s Pause and Talk.