Welcome to one of my favorite months….monsters and goblins! Halloween is a serious event in my family, with considerable planning, decorating and celebrating, all month long! This year,in particular, I’m looking forward to the beginning of a new season! I’ve had a challenging winter, spring and summer so I’m welcoming this change with open…Read More

Good Morning Beautiful Pausers…Just wanted to check in since its been a few days. I’m doing better emotionally this week but these hot flashes are no joke! And the only time I get them is while I am falling asleep. Other than upping my hormones, does anyone have any suggestions on supplements that may help. Just last night, I had to to…Read More

As I have mentioned in previous posts that I have begun ERP therapy for OCD. I have dabbled, if you will, in this type of therapy before. But I’ve always given up before my treatment began to work. Exposures are tough. And what’s even more challenging is the response prevention. Most days it’s one step forward and two steps back. But the…Read More

Happy Friday Pausers. I just wanted to get on here and give you a quick update on my week. I’m happy to say that alcohol didn’t hold much place in my brain this week. I’ve now become acutely aware that situations, like last weekend, may arise again. I have a “toolbox” for such moments and I think it needs to be updated. In my group, Women for…Read More

Hello Pausers and welcome to the beginning of fall. I never thought I would say this but I am happy summer is coming to an end. I’ve had a mentally turbulent few months and I am hopeful the new season will bring a wave of uplifting energy.

So I have a confession. I almost imbibed a glass of wine this weekend. I was having an extremely…Read More

Hello all. I’m having one of those rollercoaster days. I woke with heightened anxiety and its persisted throughout the day. I have been listening to this podcast called Your Anxiety Toolkit hosted by Kimberley Quinlan and I have been finding it extremely helpful during days like today. I recently listened to one where she talks about how to be…Read More

Good Morning Pausers. I just wanted to update you on my doctor’s appointment regarding my hormone blood panel. He told me I’m still making estrogen and my values are still in line with perimenopause. Also this transition into menopause can take a few years. YAY I am currently on a low dose estrogen patch to offset the months where my body is…Read More

Hi and welcome to Let’s Pause

I’m so glad you’re here. I created this space for us…women over 40 who are navigating all the real stuff: menopause, relationships, depression, addiction and everything in between.

Please head over to the current month’s discussion and share a little about yourself. That’s where the conversations are…Read More

Well I had an interesting conversation with my brother this morning. It began with the brother sister banter we often have in the beginning of every conversation but it quickly turned into a discussion about mental health and perimenopause.

To give you a little background….My brother and I are extremely close. He’s “my person.” We talk…Read More

Good Morning Pausers,

I am actually having a really good morning. I just had to share this because it has been quite a while since I have. My depression and anxiety have been looming over me for months so it’s refreshing to feel this sense of peace and normacly.

I have a meeting with my gynecologist next week to review my hormone blood…Read More

Good Morning Pausers,

I’m sitting outside on this beautiful, warm Saturday Morning reflecting on something I read last night. I am part of this organization called Women for Sobriety, WFS. It’s an incredible group of supportive, capable, competent and brave women, who share their struggles and their triumphs on this alcohol free journey. One…Read More

Hello Pausers,

My therapy appointment went well. In the past, my experience was spent sitting in a chair and airing all my problems and angst. At first, I was great about keeping my appointments but as time passed I would cancel or reschedule until I eventually stopped going. This style just did not work for me. And to be honest until I…Read More

Hello Pausers,

With all the health chaos behind me, I am focusing on the here and now. Last week, my therapist said that I focus so much on the past and “what if” everything in the future. She then asked if I am ever present. If you haven’t already guessed I have anxiety and OCD. And she said this this is classic for someone with both these…Read More

Hello Pausers,

So I brought up Xanax withdrawal. Thought I could touch upon that a bit today since it pertains to the information I found last night. About two months ago, I went through a health scare. It actually felt more like a crisis. What started as leg weakness and pain turned into a cancer scare and a benign growth on my brain. I know…Read More

Hello Pausers!

Im just gonna jump right in. I celebrated 2 years of sobriety on Mother’s Day. Does it get easier? In some ways yes. In others not so much. I say YES to waking every morning with a clear head, being present for my children, going to a doctor’s appointment (if you know you know), remembering my yesterday and just getting…Read More